Workplace Bullying

Written by Lindsey Shelton

Raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by a workplace bully? Yeah… same.

Most of us have experienced some form of workplace harassment, violence, or bullying. At a recent assignment, I witnessed first hand what I had previously experienced. I watched a senior nurse belittle a nursing student multiple times. This was not the nurse’s first offense. I ended up pulling aside the nursing student to let him know that he was doing a good job and not to internalize it. He looked deflated, and it broke my heart.

Bullying Among Healthcare-Workers

I started researching how often workplace bullying happens…and let me tell you, it’s A LOT! Go watch my tiktok and read through the comments to see just how many people face this exact same situation. It’s sad and honestly disheartening. 

“There is an epidemic of bullying and incivility in healthcare,” states the Healthy Workforce Institute

According to that website, “71% of physicians and nurses have linked incivility to medical error. 27% of physicians and nurses said disrespect led to a patient’s death. 81% of nurses who leave an organization cite peer and nurse/manager relations as a cause for leaving.”

Read that again… EIGHTY ONE PERCENT! That is huge. 

Fired

I was fired for the previous TikTok for “role playing a workplace bully and mental health”. Whatever that means? The video did not have any descriptions of names or workplace. A fellow coworker turned it into management on a Friday and by that Monday I was terminated. I now have former coworkers making fake accounts and accusing me of being the bully. Another tactic to get me to be quiet. 

It’s hard to be a voice for the voiceless when you have a target on your back. It’s hard to stand up against bullying when you’re afraid you’ll lose your job. I did it in such a manner that I didn’t think they would fire me. Well, I was wrong. Sometimes, you get canned for speaking up about things like this. 

Standing Up for Yourself

I’ve always told my followers to stand up for themselves and call out their bully. Maybe this time I could have done it slightly differently, but I still think the end result would have been termination. Not to mention a full DNR from the whole facility, when this is clearly a unit issue. It’s  WRONG on so many levels. 

In a perfect world, I would think management would have brought me in and asked why I didn’t think to speak to them directly about the situation. They would speak to the bully like TikToker @hr_molly states in this video

In a perfect world, they would stop using excuses like “that’s just their personality” and “she doesn’t even know she’s acting that way”. Really? In a room full of adults, do we think that sweeping these things under the rug is appropriate?  

If you’ve been in a situation where you felt bullied and no one listened, I’m listening. I’m here, and you are not alone. 81% of healthcare workers that leave have felt this way. Together, we can make a difference. 

 

 

 

Edited by: Claire Lang, RN-BSN

photo credit: https://twitter.com/tidemirrorsnjh/status/1521969333412503556

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